On the train home from Boston the other night, I referred to my friend’s son by the wrong name. She was very nice about it when she corrected me. “Now that you mention it, he does look like a Josh,” she said. She was sweet, but I was mortified. Five hours later, I found myself unable […]Read more "Gratitude for Imperfection"
“Who am I?” I asked myself again and again during the weekend meditation retreat I attended in August. It was the first time I had been away from my five-year-old son overnight. For two nights I slept in a twin bed in a single dorm room, alone for the first time in nearly a decade. “Who am I […]Read more "Who Am I?"
One month of my nine-month Habit Experiment is done as of today. Yippee! July’s Habit: Mindful Internet Use To refresh your memory, my goals for this month were… (cue Wayne’s World dissolve) 1. Restricting my internet usage to morning hours and evening hours for the completion of specific tasks. 2. Keeping a log of the times during the […]Read more "The Habit Experiment: July Wrap-up and August Kick-Off"
When I was pregnant with my daughter I would think about my desire to birth without pain medication and couldn’t figure out why so many women had trouble refusing it. The way I envisioned it, the hospital staff would say, “Do you want an epidural?” and I would say, “No, thank you.” In retrospect, I […]Read more "How is wifi like an epidural? (Habit Experiment Check-In, Week 3)"
This first week of mindful internet use has been moderately enlightening. Some of my insights so far: – When I was away from my computer, I didn’t feel a pull to check my e-mail and social media. I assumed that I would still feel the desire even though I have no internet-enabled mobile devices, but that wasn’t […]Read more "Evading the Still, Small Voice Within"
My children’s flute teacher retired from teaching last month, and the process of finding a new flute teacher has been fraught. Their relationship with their teacher was so close, the thought of replacing her feels wrong, like we’re reducing our relationship to the mere pragmatics of finding someone to teach the mechanics of playing the […]Read more "Smashing Assumptions"
I love routines. I thrive on routines. I could never leave the house without routines. I also have a lot of trouble developing routines. Every day, I think, “If only I could make X a habit*, things would be so much easier. I’d have less stress, more energy, and just in general feel happier and […]Read more "Introducing: The Habit Experiment"
Lately I’ve been thinking even more than usual about what it is I’m passionate about. I’ve been thinking about writing a blog post about this, but it turns out I already did, way back in December 2010. I’ve changed a bit since then; for example, with the help of one particularly understanding friend, I’ve made great […]Read more "Classic Imperfect Happiness: Mining Meaning"
Present Moment Wonderful Moment: Mindfulness Verses for Daily Living by Thích Nhất Hạnh My rating: 5 of 5 stars Last month I attended a women’s retreat. At the retreat center, they had these little cards up all over the building with these great little meditations on daily living. All day, the meditations prompted me to […]Read more "Present Moment Wonderful Moment: Mindfulness Verses for Daily Living by Thich Nhat Hanh"
My friend Linda always has something to say that simply and deeply speaks to my heart, so I was thrilled when she agreed to guest post on Imperfect Happiness this week. I hope you find her words as powerful as I do. If you do, please let her know in the comments. ***************** My husband […]Read more "Guest Post: This I Believe"