Due to some discord in my community, I’ve been feeling a great deal of emotional stress lately. It kind of sucks, but it’s also provided me a chance to recognize some of the ways in which I manage stress. These are my instructions to myself, and I thought some of you might find them helpful, too. […]Read more "Dealing with Stress"
I borrowed this book from my friend Melanie ages ago (about three years ago, I think). I started it right away after I borrowed it, and while I appreciated the Kabat-Zinns’ perspective, the book didn’t really hold my interest. I’d been through those difficult early years with my kids, and while the suggestions were good, […]Read more "Everyday Blessings by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn"
I’ve not had much luck with gratitude practices. Picking out things to be grateful about feels either forced or redundant, and I end up feeling like an ass when I still feel miserable even in the face of so many blessings in my life. Focusing on the good in a situation or in a moment just highlights the gap […]Read more "Organic Gratitude"
On the train home from Boston the other night, I referred to my friend’s son by the wrong name. She was very nice about it when she corrected me. “Now that you mention it, he does look like a Josh,” she said. She was sweet, but I was mortified. Five hours later, I found myself unable […]Read more "Gratitude for Imperfection"
“Who am I?” I asked myself again and again during the weekend meditation retreat I attended in August. It was the first time I had been away from my five-year-old son overnight. For two nights I slept in a twin bed in a single dorm room, alone for the first time in nearly a decade. “Who am I […]Read more "Who Am I?"
One month of my nine-month Habit Experiment is done as of today. Yippee! July’s Habit: Mindful Internet Use To refresh your memory, my goals for this month were… (cue Wayne’s World dissolve) 1. Restricting my internet usage to morning hours and evening hours for the completion of specific tasks. 2. Keeping a log of the times during the […]Read more "The Habit Experiment: July Wrap-up and August Kick-Off"
When I was pregnant with my daughter I would think about my desire to birth without pain medication and couldn’t figure out why so many women had trouble refusing it. The way I envisioned it, the hospital staff would say, “Do you want an epidural?” and I would say, “No, thank you.” In retrospect, I […]Read more "How is wifi like an epidural? (Habit Experiment Check-In, Week 3)"
This first week of mindful internet use has been moderately enlightening. Some of my insights so far: – When I was away from my computer, I didn’t feel a pull to check my e-mail and social media. I assumed that I would still feel the desire even though I have no internet-enabled mobile devices, but that wasn’t […]Read more "Evading the Still, Small Voice Within"
My children’s flute teacher retired from teaching last month, and the process of finding a new flute teacher has been fraught. Their relationship with their teacher was so close, the thought of replacing her feels wrong, like we’re reducing our relationship to the mere pragmatics of finding someone to teach the mechanics of playing the […]Read more "Smashing Assumptions"
I love routines. I thrive on routines. I could never leave the house without routines. I also have a lot of trouble developing routines. Every day, I think, “If only I could make X a habit*, things would be so much easier. I’d have less stress, more energy, and just in general feel happier and […]Read more "Introducing: The Habit Experiment"