My daughter’s new word is “aching,” as in the grocery store when she says, “Mommy, may I please have the bunny-shaped macaroni and cheese? I’ve been aching to have it!”
That leads me to ask myself, what am I aching for?
The answer is easy: I’m aching for routine. Organization. Predictability.
I picked up a book about Ayurveda from the library. I learned a bit about Ayurveda when I was in yoga teacher training back when my daughter was merely a twinkle in her father’s eye, but it never really made much sense to me. I can’t claim that it makes much sense to me right now, either, but one big thing stuck out at me during my reading.
Using my very rudimentary understanding of Ayurveda, I think I’ve determined that I have aggravated vata (with a pitta constitution, for you Ayurveda insiders). Vata can be triggered by uncertainty and lack of routine and long periods travel in enclosed spaces. Symptoms of aggravated vata include anxiety, edginess, and an inability to concentrate. Come to think of it, it’s possible I’ve had aggravated vata since I gave birth to my first child six years ago.
According to the book, one of the most important ways to get vata back in balance is to establish routines. Eat at the same times each day, exercise at the same times each day, go to bed and wake up at the same times each day. Routine is already appealing to me, and this Ayurvedic endorsement just makes it more enticing.
Trouble is, with kids routine is pretty difficult to come by. With kids during an interminably long move, it’s nearly impossible. But I think there are some changes I can make to encourage the kids and myself to get into some kind of rhythm, even before we’re finally settled into our house.
Giving myself permission to think about routines has opened the floodgates for my desire for organization. I look upon this move and this purchase of a new home as a chance for a fresh start. The idea of being bogged down by my possessions once again is just really depressing to me.
My friend Abigail has been blogging with a friend about her decluttering adventure on 2 Moms, 2 Boys, 2 Much Stuff. I’ve been impressed by her progress and her persistence. I’ve also been a little jealous that I have all kinds of stuff sitting in storage that I could be getting rid of right now. In today’s post, Abigail linked to another post on another blog that has a statement I found compelling:
They touched every single item they owned and asked this vital question: “Do I love it?” or “Would this belong in my dream house/dream life?” And if not, they let it go.
Reading this I realized a very exciting thing:
With this move I have an opportunity to handle every single item we own!
Whether I want to or not, it’s got to come out of the boxes, which means it’s almost certainly got to pass through my hands.
If I unpack an item I don’t love, I want to get it out of the house before it settles in. I want to unpack each box with two other boxes sitting to the side, one marked, “Give Away” and one marked “Throw Away.” I want to put away only those things we actively want to keep in our home. The other stuff, I want to escort out unceremoniously as quickly as possible.
Abigail mentions the technique of pulling everything out of a closet, putting things back in one by one, and when the closet looks done, it’s done.
This technique is built into our move, too!
Decluttering as I’m unpacking will likely take longer than just stashing stuff, but how can I let this opportunity slip by?
I don’t want to find places to stow crap. I want to surround myself with things that I love and use and feel good looking at. I want to easily open and close dresser drawers and maneuver clothes in the closet. I want my kids to be able to find the toys they love, play with them for hours, then spend five minutes cleaning them up.
Okay, that last one’s a bit of a long shot, but I dare to dream.