Tight Shoes and Personal Growth

I think I’ve corrected some erroneous assumptions I’d made about vulnerability: 1) Not all discomfort is a sign of vulnerability. 2) Discomfort itself is not necessarily a sign that I’m on the right path, but sitting with the discomfort before making a change can help me figure out what change to make. It’s like ifContinue reading “Tight Shoes and Personal Growth”

Still More Grocery Store Lessons: Who Deserves Compassion?

I’ve written about my realization that feeling a sense of scarcity and like the world owes me something is a choice and that I can choose to feel differently. I’ve written about how much better showing compassion feels than feeling annoyed does. Now I come to the third thought that’s been percolating since my groceryContinue reading “Still More Grocery Store Lessons: Who Deserves Compassion?”

More Lessons in Compassion at the Grocery Store

I mentioned in yesterday’s post a recent trip to the grocery store, but I only told the middle of the story. Here’s how it began: So, we’d managed to make it to the checkout line with only a few more items than were on the list and with me still on speaking terms with bothContinue reading “More Lessons in Compassion at the Grocery Store”

Grocery Shopping: Lessons in Compassion

At the grocery store the other day, I was struggling to hold a crying three-year-old with one arm while using the other to put my groceries on the conveyor belt when I noticed that there was a man standing there impatient that I was holding up the line (and partially blocking the way to theContinue reading “Grocery Shopping: Lessons in Compassion”

Playing “Appalachian Trail Thru Hiker” At Home

As I tucked the blankets around my daughter tonight, I asked, “Honey, are you going to sleep with that hat on?” She had pulled a stocking cap down over her ears. “Yes,” she answered. “It’s like I’m camping on the Appalachian Trail. Is it okay if I wear my gloves, too?” I paused. She was gazingContinue reading “Playing “Appalachian Trail Thru Hiker” At Home”

My Midlife Crisis, Ahead of Schedule

It’s possible I’m going through a midlife crisis. I’m only 35, but I’ve always been precocious. There’s this sense that I’ve missed my chance to do something grand, something a little bit crazy. Sure, I gave birth to my son in my dining room and that was amazing and transformative, but it was just aContinue reading “My Midlife Crisis, Ahead of Schedule”

Struggles with Self-Compassion

My sister finds four-leaf clovers. I can search a patch of clover for an hour and not find a four-leaf clover, and my sister can walk up and, without hesitation, just pluck one from right next to my knee. She’s always done this. A week ago, I was pretty convinced that self-compassion was not forContinue reading “Struggles with Self-Compassion”

Self-Compassion: How Thinking About Bad Experiences Can Make You Happier and More Compassionate

Welcome to the March Mindful Mama Carnival: Mindful Mama Challenge This post was written for inclusion in the Mindful Mama Carnival hosted by Becoming Crunchy and TouchstoneZ. This month our participants have challenges they’ve set for themselves toward becoming more mindful. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the otherContinue reading “Self-Compassion: How Thinking About Bad Experiences Can Make You Happier and More Compassionate”

What Next?

Saturday marked the end of my self-guided 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Program (based on Jon Kabat-Zinn’s Full Catastrophe Living). After eight weeks, daily mindfulness practice has pretty much become a habit for me. I’m making a shift to a vegan diet (this is not part of the program but since starting the mindfulness practice myContinue reading “What Next?”

Sitting With Disequilibrium

I’ve been feeling very much off-kilter for the past couple of weeks. I’ve been working hard to just let myself feel off-kilter, but I much prefer to take a situation and reason it into submission if it’s not turning out the way I want it to. I’m a big fan of creating plans. And schedules.Continue reading “Sitting With Disequilibrium”